The Beautiful Side of Grief - 79. Out of Love

Wednesday, January 25, 2023

Show Notes

There are over one third of people caregiving in some capacity. Your initial response would probably be 'let's make this about the person who needs the care'. However, that can only last for so long before you realise your own self-care is being compromised or, worse still, non-existent. So how do you do this very important, often selfless job, adjust to what is happening with your loved one, and still be able to keep on track with your own life? You take a listen to my guest in this episode.

Lynn Abaté-Johnson believes caregivers are worthy of the same love, care, and attention they give their loved ones, which means they need the emotional and logistical support to help them thrive. Unfortunately, it takes copious hours of research to find the resources caregivers need, which leaves them feeling drained, frustrated, and overwhelmed. In this episode, we discuss her book, 'Out of Love: a daughter's journey with her mum to the end', which provides readers with reassurance, comfort, and practical systems and tools to help caregivers provide care easier and discover how to blossom through their journey. Our conversation is full of honesty, openness and heart.

In this episode, we share:

Ways to divy up caregiving between family members
Recognising that even if you are strong, capable, and accomplished you can suffer anxiety, stress or other symptoms in this new role
How to discern what it is you really need versus using your old addictions to fulfill it
Practising the beingness of being human
Tips for juggling caregiving with a fulltime job
Going from “What am I going to do without my mom?” to “I know I can thrive after she’s gone–just as she would want.”

Quote:

"Nobody felt I was distracted except for me, and so what happened was my nervous system took a big hit and the trauma just lived in me to where I started to pack on more weight on physically on my body." ~ Lynn Abaté-Johnson

Resources:

Lynn's links:

To get your FREE chapter of Out of Love: https://www.LynnAbateJohnsonBook.com/freechapter

To purchase Out of Love: A Daughter's Journey with her Mum to the End: https://OutOfLoveBook.mn.co

Online community BY and FOR family caregivers: LynnAbateJohnsonBook.com

Caregiver Bingo IG post: https://www.instagram.com/p/CmxCN49OwO_/

Create an online blog via https://www.caringbridge.org/

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